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It’s viewing life-giving acts like this that allows us to remember that truly, if we simply have a healthy child to love, we are so very blessed and how often we can take that for granted. I also found myself reflecting on my four boys.

Reflecting on all the times I have failed to be all I can be – too quick to anger, seeing them as interruptions, stopping me from getting ‘stuff’ done, too slow to mercy and love towards them in their different little worlds, growing and learning.

Reflecting on times I have managed to be all I can be – patient, loving, gentle. Having all the time in the world for them and helping them through challenges lovingly instead of critiquing their mistakes. Spending time with them. Indeed just last night I found myself lying on the ground with one of them for a while under his blanket and it wasn’t long before a family ‘stacks on’ occurred with plenty of tickling, laughter, and love.

Truly, the bright light of such an amazing example from an obviously wonderful Dad encourages me to reach higher and do more of all I can be.

It was a shining example of that wonderful saying “Anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad”.

What a beautiful, simple, and powerful expression of love and service. A leader’s example.

Her smile is worth a lifetime of effort surely.

Daniel

I found the following simple and powerful, even to the level of organisational change. It goes right to the core of why people do what they do, which impacts everyone in an organisation.

Seth’s Blog: Doing what gets rewarded

Two points:

– People always believe they are right ‘by their own method’ i.e. The process they have followed in their heart and mind to choose whatever behaviour they have just enacted. When we can understand those methods for people, we understand them and can support and help them do more of that, if it’s a positive behaviour, or invite them to another place if it’s not

– Ribbons seem to be the world’s view on how we should reward. Awards, money, badges. Ribbons. Yet I have always found the most profound reward I can give someone, without question, is when I have tapped into an element at the core of their being that they would die for and which is at the root of their belief system and I link their behaviour with that. It requires strength, reflection, and courage.

This is all relationship over ribbons as I am seeking their heart and their purpose in life and showing them how they are a light worth shining from the hilltop thanks to their behaviour. It is the tougher path of course as it requires diligence in denial of self method and seeking to understand another’s method and story.

Yours in relationship,

Daniel

You cannot understand the person whom you dislike… You do not, cannot, see them as they are, but see only your own imperfect notions of them… To see others as they are you must not allow impulsive likes and dislikes, powerful prejudices, or egotistic considerations to come between you and them… People misjudge, condemn, and avoid each other because they do not understand each other, and they do not understand each other because they have not overcome and purified themselves. (James Allen)

If only the world were full of people who would read and adapt material like this into their daily ritual and focus.

Surely, truly, the world would be a better place, for finally everyone would be focusing on improving themselves… and seeking to understand others.

Go on, apply it in any situation, to any group of people anywhere and tell me it doesn’t work.

I know it works for me for all the people I have managed to ‘righteously claim dislike for’.

The great leaders get this and apply it.

It’s why we look upon them and call them great.

It’s why, if we seek to lead, our only option is to mimic them.

Join me and let’s do all within our power to remove the blindness of dislike for those that we need to.

Daniel

I read the following passage recently and was energised by the power of its simple messages. We’ve probably all heard passages that espouse similar virtues before so I won’t go into further detail but just allow this particular one as it impacted me so well to see what it does for you.

WHILE OTHERS Are.

by William Arthur Ward

Believe while others are doubting.
Plan while others are playing.
Study while others are sleeping.
Decide while others are delaying.
Prepare while others are daydreaming.
Begin while others are procrastinating.
Work while others are wishing.
Save while others are wasting.
Listen while others are talking.
Smile while others are frowning.
Commend while others are criticizing.
Persist while others are quitting.

The only point I did want to make was one key lesson: Do what others won’t … but please do it with joy and seek to be a servant. We can often read such passages and very quickly put ourselves in an ‘elite’ place, a place where we might accidentally find ourselves proudly, though only mentally, proclaim that we are doing what others won’t and therefore considering ourselves somehow better.

It’s my view that the truly greatest leaders no matter what they are doing that others aren’t, still seek to lift others up and help them by seeing the person, seeing the challenges, seeing their battles and with no self promotion whatsoever, simply try to serve the other. Please do feel free to share any of your own stories like this in the comments.

Daniel

Read this book…

… please! Anyone in leadership should read this, which is anyone in life, for shouldn’t our lives be a constant reflection of someone seeking to live the best life they can, which is to lead with our life? If you are looking for an incredible book, even if you aren’t, even if you haven’t ever made the effort to read a book of this type – make this your first.

It challenged, helped, and moved me. It flushed me out from hiding places built up over time, yes I was self deceived, shock horror! Are you?

It was powerful.

Not compelling enough? Check out this related video about Ignaz Semmelweis:


Love to know if you like/read/have read it and are you brave enough to share about it as we all try to help each other out of the box and…

Lead Anyway

PS – Don’t think you ‘have time’ to read. Get on an audio book tool and start learning, growing, changing in ‘dead time’, driving by yourself, doing lawns and so on.